Meet the Consultant Teaching Trans Women How to Be ‘Feminine’

Meet the Consultant Teaching Trans Women How to Be ‘Feminine’


  • christina payne says:

    These people are jokes!!!!!! God created you this way for a reason… For people to say I am not good enough the way I was created is why our society is so fucked up.

  • K P says:

    all a bunch of whack a doos

  • MOON says:

    I love this

  • Elizabeth Anderson says:

    LOL! Weirdos!!!!

  • Ariel Harloff says:

    A lot of what she says makes so much sense to me

  • Katie Patterson says:

    Damn she's just trying to help and they're bashing her.

  • M Serra says:

    The interviewer is acting like this lovely woman is forcing trans women to go to her services like bruh that's her job the customers come to her and she just does her job to help

  • Jayee Harper says:

    Wow this is Empowering 💕

  • Horatio KJV Bible says:

    The most famous transgender in the world is bhapomet a.k.a satan.

  • DUKE Hiroto says:

    Thank you Monica. The world needs more people like you … love from Bangkok xx

  • Coitus Handguns says:

    This is fucking gay

  • Haziqa Hasan says:

    I mean if people are actually coming to her to learn that without being forced to then what's the problem?

  • RezaQin says:

    You mean men, not transwomen.

  • The Borderline Life says:

    Wonderful! These women all seem very pleased and are reaching their ideal image, so what’s the problem?

  • butitssummerma says:

    Seriously…its so rude to have a woman teach a "woman" how to do her makeup and accentuate her femininity.
    Are these people insane?!

  • luisa araujo says:

    He can teath how to be polite old rules abaut how put a table or fashion tips but this is not how to be feminine

  • 97warlock ismyname says:

    Yes when a women looks & acts feminine its BASICALLY for men IN MOST CASES. Just as Men try to act macho & strong & all the typical man type of behavior…..he USUALLY is doing it somehow someway because of a women or with a Woman in mind at some point. Guys wouldnt be where they are if it werent for women & vice versa.

  • Dylan says:

    I think as trans people, some of us might have an initial reaction that this is like when trans women would go to their gender therapist to get permission to transition, especially in decades past, and the therapist would police her gender expression and assess her femininity.

    In that case it was really as a form of violence, a way of keeping her from hormones that might save her life, because she was not feminine enough. But in this case, women approach Monica freely because they want this kind of service, and it's really quite rare to see a gender expression coach, it's not the norm or expectation in transition.

    And of course trans women often go through that awkward fashion phase and that's fine, but it might be less fine if the woman is a professional in a career where these awkward choices could be seen as problematically non-professional.

    A lot of cis woman feminists also may not see how these women are not necessarily trying to conform to beauty standards to get some extra perceived benefit, but simply to be seen as women and not face transphobic violence. So it's not terribly useful to go to cis women to try to get opinions on what trans women should do or not do with their bodies! In most cases they haven't given a lot of thought to the fact that they pass through the world assumed to be women while others do not. But perhaps this documentary will help enlighten them to the needs and experiences of trans women more.

  • Jason Bellini says:

    I really like her. She's gorgeous and sweet but most importantly she's compassionate.

  • Granny's B.S. says:

    Who'd of thought?

  • M H says:

    She’s giving me Megan Markle vibes

  • Kenakibae says:

    Aww Kristen is so beautiful. I love everybody for who they are, because no matter what, people who are themselves are beautiful.

  • francesca fox says:

    maybe people should just stop policing how others want to perform their gender. you can critique feminity and masculinity because it can become toxic but trans folk should have every opportunity to be masculinity, feminine, in-between, i mean isn't that what we are fighting for? self – expression?

  • jas sayin says:

    Hey theres a market for it… Shes meeting the need of individuals.. Go on girl get your coins.

  • kitty meow meow says:

    Why are people mad at this ???? This is freakin amazing and the fact you want her to stop is messed up

  • Jakefromstatefarm says:

    I’m a woman and a feminist so I love everything about this woman and the people she works with. She’s such an amazing human being. We shouldn’t put women down for wanting to be that “dress wearing, cookie baking feminine person”. Having said that, can she teach me her tricks

  • Heather duke says:

    Well…maybe because she is a real woman??What's wrong with teaching them?I'm sure that the trans women who signed up actually WANTED to have someone teach them.Modern feminists are such sensitive losers.Where are the days where feminists actually knew what they where striving for?

  • Jessica Ruiz says:

    This is one of my favorite videos on the internet. I think I felt the same as most at the beginning of the vid… Unsure if Monica had a right to teach femininity to those transitioning, but her clients seek her out. They want her specific views and advice. She's also incredibly friendly, approachable, and professional. It's touching. I'm glad Monica is on their side ❤

  • Emmanuel King says:

    I grew-up in the middle of the 2nd wave feminist movement, where mainly biological women burnt bras and rejected the feminine. Now I see trans women wanting to embrace the feminine. This video portrayed that perfectly between the trans women and the interviewer. I wonder when this shift started to happen…it's interesting.

  • Kyla M says:

    This woman isn’t passionate about helping transgender people, she is simply trying to make a profit off of the transgender community. She knows it.

  • Nutrition Facts says:

    Attorney has nice features look so feminine and pleasant…even before makeup

  • Rogue Kitty says:

    I don't get the point of all those negative opinions at the start of the video.. she offers a great service for these rich trans people. Figuring out makeup can take years growing up and she's making it easier for them to transition without having such an awkward phase of figuring out their personal style and the make up techniques that make them feel beautiful.

  • sgingee says:

    I feel like the other girl was judging hard

  • sandra williams says:

    What she is “teaching” might be what the individual considers their ideal of femininity. Monika has a good eye, she does a good job.

  • Hekate Jane says:

    Feminine is a set of behaviors.

    I know a lot of women. I don't know very many people that perform femininity.

    The people that I see performing femininity are almost always men. And that's fine. But femininity does not make you female.

  • L H says:

    I like this woman. Why shit on someone who is there to help accomplish goals for a portion of society that may need that help.

  • Saffiyeh Jaffer says:

    Thats not a Transgender woman at all. Thats a Man thats CROSSDRESSING!

  • Eshiett Deborah says:

    Oh gosh. This is the second time I'm watching this interviewer and I still don't like her approach at all… Damn!

  • Just Abbey says:

    Right on girl, keep helping people as much as you can! <3

  • MrSivram28 says:

    Gay men and Trans-women look nasty. No matter how good looking a Trans-woman is their is no way in hell I'll have sex with one. Look at that balding old skinny ugly white man transitioning to become a woman. Can you imagine having sex with that, with a wig on and makeup?

  • Missterious Misstress says:

    But there are plenty of trans women who do want to conform to that level of femininity …

  • American Ajumma says:

    Excuse me but a cis women IS exactly the person that should teach trans women to be women. Why are feminists so unreasonable!?

  • Join The Progress says:

    Women (often feminists) who claim they are "feminine" have to understand that although they believe they are feminine, that does not mean men interpret their expression as feminine. Most will interpret it as, in some way, masculine. Political correctness is irrelevant to this interpretation. It just "is." 0:55 …Sorry, you're "not" feminine.

  • thicc oatmeal says:

    The interviewer pisses me off, she’s helping her dress how she wants!

  • Chan J says:

    "If someone wants to wear a dress, let them wear a dress… just shave your legs first." Love that! Lol

  • srose 21 says:

    Chrissie’s smile when Monica said “We’re going to get your ears pierced today” melted my heart I’m so happy for her. I think Monica is truly helping. She doesn’t force trans women to be women they don’t want to be. She will help women be whoever they truly are.

  • End of days says:

    Jesus take the wheel, mankind have lost control, everything is OK nowadays.

  • C H says:

    There is no definition of femininity? Wow, this young generation is bonkers. What's even worse is this woman is profiting off of mentally ill people.

  • Annabelle Lynn says:

    I was wondering why these people interviewing and stuff were so rude and close-minded. Then I realized….this is Vice.

    The same news source that says flavored vape juices are racist.

  • hope says:

    Wtf is this disgusting shit.Omg.this is ridiculous

  • gabriella lopez says:

    The key word here is educated, hence money. Minorities already buy hair extensions with welfare money.

  • Lonewolf Vicious says:

    This shit is crazy breh I don't mean that offensively it's just crazy to me.

  • Miss Keema says:

    Achieve ideal self need a basis and to say that there's no such thing as femininity and that woman don't learn how to be women from women your argument is stupid

  • Miss Keema says:

    The woman don't know what femininity is it is the essence of what they're becoming I'm going to explain how it is but only if people come to the page and want to have the discussion what femininity is why it is important to being a female why does its and how it separates us a male counterpart femininity is your attraction it's your lore I'm like what they say your pheromones but artificial pheromone it can be built on

  • Miss Keema says:

    And the major part of humanity is confidence you cannot exude femininity without confidence if you're not sure yourself if you're not strong and self if you not understanding what your weaknesses and what your games are in it if you not understanding of what looks good on you and what doesn't what flatters you would doesn't you're not going to be able to exclude femininity it helps you identify a unique you in your style your personality that set you apart but also helps you blend in with other females it's kind of like okay I like your style it's men it's like a God damn she's beautiful the way she walks it's a confidence Builder as well

  • jpin0002 jpin0002 says:

    Jesus Christ. All I see is people with mentally illnesses, getting pushed further and further into their disorders. May God help open your eyes and point you in the right direction.

  • jpin0002 jpin0002 says:

    You know your doing something wrong when you have tk wait for your mom to die, to do it lol. Your basically going against your roots and your foundation and letting the world's influence take over your life. Shame on you. At least you let your mother rest in peace, not knowing her son and daughter are fucking insane. Hats off to you for that.

  • Kitty Mae says:

    “There’s no definition of what feminine is” sorry if you don’t WANT there to be a definition but there is 🙂

  • Kitty Mae says:

    It’s obviously for trans women who were not raised as a girl and were not raised to be girly.

    No one showed them the ropes like who cis girls were shown, that’s were she comes in.

  • Sumora says:

    Why do they need to be taught? If they are women, feel women, why do they have to be taught?

  • Hec Ven says:

    Why are they complaining about a service that no one is forced to use, these women go there by there choice and seem to feel good about it sooooo what's the issue

  • Maria Weston says:

    There seems to be a problem with the word feminine. After a lifetime of men’s suits, short haircuts, flat shoes, dressing as a woman is a challenge. The little bits we deal with are unknown to men—hairstyling, pedicures, makeup. The role models available seem to be the more colorful “queens”. This is a gift to trans men who want to be womanly. Be nice.

  • Mada Girl says:

    These people kill me with the shit. Stop calling us cis. We are women don't get it fucked up. You guys are too sensitive and what's wrong with a woman teaching you how to be feminine? if you have a dick you're a guy and if you want to be a woman it's only right that you learn that from us. What's the problem here? And that dumb ass at the end saying that she doesn't know what feminine even means well I can tell you that it certainly doesn't look like you. It means girly feminine, ,prissy you like pink,and shit🤦🏾‍♀️ what else do you wanna hear?🤷🏾‍♀️👏🏾💯🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

  • Matthew Scott says:

    I don’t think being ultra feminine is necessarily “trying to please men”. It can be, or attracting men could be a fun byproduct of it. But plenty of girls & women I know love to put on their sexiest clothes & shoes, do their hair & makeup to the nines & look gorgeous when they’re only going to be around family, or other women & gay men. It makes them feel beautiful , and it makes them feel good when their friends notice the effort they put forth. I know as a man, when I’d put on my nicest clothes, Polish my boots, straighten & style my hair, and cover up my dark eye circles 😉, moisturize etc I’d feel great. Even when women would compliment me or flirt though I wasn’t interested (happily married & gay) it boosted my self esteem & I’d thank them. Nothing wrong with some self love. “If you cant love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else? Can I get an amen?!” ~RuPaul

  • ToND1Ne says:

    Although I had mixed feelings looking at the title, once I watched the video, & saw how her clientèle felt helped by her services, I became more open to the idea. Nobody is being FORCED to do this: it is purely voluntary. For the first client, who wanted to 'appear' to be a woman, the classic, professional look works well since she is an attorney. However, her facial features scream MALE. In order to really look like a woman, some facial surgery will be necessary: rhinoplasty, narrowing the chin & jaw, Softening the brow bone, shaving down the Adam's apple, & getting some voice coaching, will go a long way. YES, these interventions are costly, some carry serious risks, & not everyone can access them, BUT, HER clientèle consists predominantly of people who lived as affluent, successful white men. That attorney likely CAN afford it.

    I am by no means implying that ALL transwomen/men should desire to 'pass', in the eyes of the general public, for the sex they're transitioning into, BUT for those who DO want to, & who want a look that is consistent with their career & lifestyle, but aren't sure how to navigate the baffling world of female fashion, make-up, & hairstyles, this consulting service might make all the difference.

  • Chelsea Marina says:

    It's so sucky how empowering and comforting the consultant is but how defensive, negative and offended the interviewer is.
    This is what the clients want or they wouldn't have gone to the consultant. They want to explore and feel their feminine side and the interviewer getting offended in the background is sooooo annoying!!

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  • ambergris lo says:

    I love this woman!!!!!! She’s so feminine and so loving 🥰 and so kind darling

  • Aga Szarotka says:

    Trans are not women. They are MEN dressed like women. You can easily notice they difference. The behave in an exagerated way or are too vulgar. They are not feminin. They are just ridiculous.

  • clarencep90 says:

    this whole video made me sick.

  • warrensgoferteeth says:

    teach whatever u want MEN ARE NEVER REAL WOMEN! STOP THIS TRAVESTY as a REAL FEMALE it insults women when hairy brutes claim womanhood. u r GAY MEN who like sodomy

  • Victoria Emily-bapp says:

    The cis women in this video are like white people explaining that white privilege doesn’t exist or like wealthy people declaring that poor people aren’t trying hard enough to ‘come up’.

  • SickoBaby 1488 says:

    Why would they need to be taught? I thought they claim to be women in a male bodies? It should just come naturally then.

  • carmencitanh18 says:

    I don’t understand why anyone would be mad, us girls growing up get taught femininity from the jump and once we grow up we define what’s feminine for ourselves. We don’t know what is like to have to experience that from a looking glass if your trans

  • Kendal K. says:

    Look at all of these gorgeous women!!

  • Prince Charmling says:

    Is there an equivalent for ftm people? I need some help x_x

  • ApinkVixxMamamooAAfromis9 SechskiesLoonaShinee says:

    It's rich hearing feminists angry about transwomen existing. Don't talk to them then.

  • boo41916 says:

    This is a joke where is the woman……………. They are all transgender men…………….

  • Kyle Shanebeck says:

    It really bothered me the way the cis woman in the beginning took offense to the idea of someone helping trans people in this way, exploring what it means to be feminine. As if those woman didn't have the privilege of growing up with mother's or sisters or girlfriends who helped them explore their femininity their whole lives, and come to their own understanding of what that means. But these trans woman who have to come to their femininity much later in life, seek out someone to help them and the cis woman scoff at that because "feminism." Just really seemed to underline a kind of trans exclusionary feminism…

  • Kyle Shanebeck says:

    God the privilege of those cis woman! Not realizing they aren't misgendered all the time because they have physical features and affectations that mean their are generally identified as feminine. But this wonderful lady is helping trans woman overcome the inequity of being in a body that makes people misgender them, and allows them to hopefully find some kind of normalcy where people don't automatically misgender them all the time. And all these cis ladies with genetic females bodies are all "well I can walk around in androgenous clothes and still be feminine." Ya Becky, because you still genetically present as female. It's not trans people's fault they have to act more feminine just so they are no misgendered and abused in public all the time. 😠😠

  • Lynne Cartwright says:

    I despair of the younger generation… Some of these people being interviewed say the most ridiculous PC things…

  • blackcurrantpop says:

    Stupid mouthy interviewer femi nazi. Ugly face of this generation. Nothing wrong w being feminine.

  • Nofretari says:

    Can’t stand these stupid feminists. I love being feminine and I am not ashamed of it.

  • Sarah Kreller says:

    There’s no definition of what feminine is? I think Miriam Webster would disagree.

  • Alan Muñoz says:

    Sooo it's ok to be feminine…ONLY if you're trans

  • Ines Kenny says:

    I was so confused when I heard the second person say she found it weird that a cis woman would teach a trans woman what it means to be a woman… They have literally been one their entire lives?

  • Vox Nihili says:

    How dare a woman tell a man how to be a woman. Stupidest thing I heard all year.

  • jmklind says:

    How do I get this job?!

  • A Jacques says:

    Yess!!!!! At that bit about a successful transition being about status!!!! Ie Caitlyn Jenner. Poor people don't get that privilege

  • Maui Caui says:

    What's wrong with being a girly girl, we kick ass too while looking fabulous.

  • dan tan says:

    If there is no definition of feminine than what is the point if transitioning?

  • Crystal Bubb says:

    Her wanting to cry after getting her ears pierced made me BALL like a baby ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • Joey H says:

    she was getting her ears pierced!! so cute, my heart aah. I fully support this practice! her clients seemed so happy.

  • Brittany Emerson says:

    The attorney looked great! Monica is good at her job! I'm a CIs woman but I could still use her services lol I would love to improve my style of clothing she created such a classy polished look

  • bert1029 says:

    I liked the shirt/skirt combo at 2:45 way more than the leopard print dress. So classy and elegant ❤️

  • Yogi Breeze says:

    More confused sick B.S. Absurd.

  • djevangelene says:

    What a interesting world we live in today.

  • kittea says:

    I Stan Monica

  • Vivian Tristesse says:

    As a person who is probably a transwoman, I haven't really been able to complete my transition because I'm not confident in my feminine image. Ironically, I am in stealth, successfully pretending to be a cis woman, but I don't feel comfortable in my own skin. Watching this, I can't help but feel that if I had had a someone to coach me like this, I would be a lot healthier and happier than I am today.

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